This weekend at Made in America literally had me going crazy. Actually, the past couple of concerts I’ve attended have left me flabbergasted. If my friends could describe me they would say I’m a calmperson, slow to anger, patient…. BUT all of that goes out of the door when this happens.
First of all, let’s get things straight. I don’t like the word “nigga” to begin with. The word is just something I don’t care for. I understand the roots, where it came from, and the negativity behind it, so, I try and refrain from using it in my own vocabulary bank, AND I’M BLACK.
So, with that being said, the one thing that makes my skin crawl is when people of a non-black background think it’s okay to say it. The one place that I’ve seen them very comfortable saying it, is at concerts. Yelling out the word as if it’s a part of them, as if they grew up being called nigga, as if they know… The reasonings I’ve heard when I bought my issue to other people’s attention are:
- The artists make the music, if they didn’t care about non-blacks saying it, they wouldn’t make it
- It’s just a song
- It’s not THAT serious
- They don’t mean it in an offensive way
Sorry, I’m not going for it. I won’t ever be okay with a non-nigga, saying the word nigga. I don’t care if your favorite artist says it, and I don’t care if your best friend is black. I think as a people we make too many excuses for other people’s actions. What I can say is, I’m working on trying to calmly tell the person how I feel about it without going crazy on them. I’m learning to accept that I can’t control other people’s actions, but I can give them my input to try and better the situation. I’m learning, I’m growing, but until I’m at a place where I can nicely tell you to watch your mouth, don’t say nigga around me.
What You Can Do
- Figure out the best approach to the situation
- Vent to your close friends/family
- Figure out where the anger is stemming from. Are you just angry because they said it, or are you angry for other reasons?
- Talk about it, make your voice heard.
- A lot of people actually don’t mind so if you fall in that category. That’s your preference
One thing I’ve learned is, people won’t know what your issue is if you don’t voice it. Even if it falls on deaf ears, you know that you’ve done your part.
Now it’s your turn. How do you feel about the subject, have you experienced this, is it an over reaction? All comments are welcomed. Let’s get the conversation started.